Lisa lost her job during the pandemic season; John had a divorce; Melissa lost her mom. We all have setbacks like these that make us think about whether we will ever be happy again. Life doesn’t go in linear motions. It goes more like a wave. We all have our best days and worst days, but how we deal with whatever comes our way matters the most. These are my favourite ways that have helped me a lot in dealing with the not so good times in my life.
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Let go of the feeling that problems only choose you
- No matter what we are going through in life, we feel like all the misfortunes have only chosen us.
- At that moment, one feels like he is the only one suffering or his problem is worse or bigger than everyone else’s.
- In times like this, rather than only focusing on our own pain, we should understand that there are people who have been through the same situation; there are people on whom times are going harder.
- Don’t forget- “Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” Keep this in mind and watch your disappointment disappear.
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Embracing everything
- We often think that every day should go in a perfect way. The only thing we forget here is that CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT.
- Times change, and so do people.
- What we have today we might not have tomorrow.
- Like the moon, we should embrace all the phases of ourselves and our life.
- You will have days filled with all the flavours of life- sad, happy, depressing, overwhelming, exciting.
- Not all days will go according to your wish.
- Sadness makes us value happiness.
- Hard times have their own beauty- they make us who we are today.
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Ego issues
Ego is not a bad thing in itself- the problem comes when we see things only from its perspective.
If you have a need to-
- Accumulate things that you do not necessarily need
- Prove yourself right every time
- Defeat others
- Suspect good intentions of others
Then the chances are that you will be unhappy in life. This mentality comes when we have a scarcity mindset. We think that our success will only come from others’ failures without realising that we have come here to serve others- not defeat them. We will not get rich by making others poor. You do not have to prove yourself right every time as sometimes we might win a fight only to lose a battle.
Rather than thinking about your own benefits, come up with the reasons of how you can add more value into others life. When you see a smile on someone’s face because of you, happiness will find you.
Before you say something to someone, always think about how you would feel if someone told you the same thing. – BUDDHA
You have a choice
- It is not an easy tool but so worth it.
- Every day we get triggered by people and our situations and react accordingly.
- The problem is neither the situation nor other people.
- Choose to respond differently instead of shouting when angry.
- Practice meditation to calm and ground yourself every morning and promise yourself that you will react with love throughout your day.
- It will be difficult at first, but with time, you will realise that you will have better control over your emotions and will be less affected by the outer world.
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Why so serious?
- Have you ever noticed how happy you were when you were five years old? So what happened now?
- As we age, we start taking life so seriously that we do not realise we have left joy and playfulness with our childhood.
- Why are you taking everything so seriously?
- It’s okay if someone left you or you got fired. Instead of feeling sad for your past, feel happy for your future.
- The person might have left you to make way for someone better.
- Times might have got you fired to provide you with a chance to do something better.
- Whenever you start getting too caught up with life, act as if you are a hero and your life is a video game. This is so much fun. It might sound silly, but if silly is helping us be happy, it’s worth it.
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Failure
- I have not met anyone who has not faced failure until now.
- We do not realise that failure just doesn’t exist- it is just that our plan did not work.
- Rather than crying over it, try to adopt a different way in order to reach your goal.
- It is not what happens to you that matters. It is how you see it that counts.
- Failure is not the endpoint- it is the best teacher. It shows you that you are a step closer to your goal.
- After every setback, do not curse yourself. Visualise your success and encourage yourself to do better.
- “It’s the strongest comeback from the gravest setback that defines the champion.”
Comparison
- It is the most common problem of today’s world because of the misuse of social media.
- Comparison is the thief of joy.
- Most people are critical of themselves because of which they resent others.
- This poor self-image creates an inferiority complex. If someone is beautiful, it does not mean that you are ugly.
- Find contentment, and happiness will find you.
- Focus on who you are and what you have come here to do.
- When you start dwelling on your own inadequacies, start affirming positive sentences to yourself.
Jealousy
- When we truly want something and see our desires manifesting in others’ life, we tend to get jealous.
- We think that we can’t get something because of others.
- The problem is we keep on attracting lack because of our low vibration.
- How about we change the way we look at it?
- When someone gets what we have always wanted, it only shows us that one can achieve anything.
- Shouldn’t that make us even more committed?
- Rather than getting jealous, be happy for them and trust me, in no time, you will see it getting manifested in your life.
Action
- Have you ever felt that you have done nothing in your life? Does that uneasy feeling not upset you?
- It happens because either we are not working for our dreams or are living to make others’ dreams come true.
- We neglect ourselves thinking that caring for ourselves makes us look selfish.
- Making yourself a priority is never selfish.
- It is good to care for others but not at your expense.
- Rather than making excuses for not reaching your goals, take 30-60 minutes every day to work towards your own dreams.
- You will realise that when you take conscious actions towards your goals, you will automatically feel more creative, happy, fulfilled and energetic.
Attitude of gratitude
You might have heard it from everyone. Let me tell you, it works. You can not be sad and grateful at the same time. It is just not possible. A simple act of being thankful for what you once wanted, which you now have, not only fills your heart with joy but also opens the door for new things.
Surrender
There are times when we start overthinking about the results. It makes our mind so busy with thoughts of worry and fear that we fail to focus on anything else.
Whenever your mind feels bombarded with thoughts, give your worries and fears to the higher power you believe in and trust that it will end well.
Approval
We all like to hear few words of praise from others, but the truth is that not everyone will like us. When approval-seeking becomes your need, you will sacrifice yourself to others’ opinions.
If you want to be happy again, you must eradicate the need to gain approval and validation from others.
Be grateful for others’ appreciation but do not depend on the same. Love yourself. Others have a right to have their own opinions.