Femininity. What does this word remind you of? Are you one of those who think that femininity is restricted to receiving, loving, nurturing and beautifying? What about traits like rage, mysteriousness, darkness, sensuality and destruction? If you believe the latter traits have nothing to do with femininity, let me introduce you to its new side. Yes, dark traits are a part of the Goddess. Here we will see everything we need to know about dark feminine energy and ways to unleash our own darkness-
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What is dark feminine energy?
Before we begin, let me clear this- Darkness does not necessarily have a negative connotation every time.
The side of us trapped under the norms of the society is nothing but dark feminine energy. It is our sensual and creative side that scares people. The wild and crazy part within us that goes by no rules and has the capacity to destroy everything. She is pure but rules over all the impurities of the world.
Why is dark feminine emerging now?
- Several decades back, women were fully tapped into their sensual side and listened to their intuition without relying on the opinions of others giving birth to terror in society.
- They were seen as home wreckers.
- When men could not tame the feminine, he made her feel guilty for her darkness.
- Traits of femininity changed to fit the role of wives that obeyed their husbands.
- Femininity traits like care, love, beauty and motherly nature were considered perfect and promoted by society.
- Purity was equated with virginity.
- Women who were connected to their darkness were seen as sinners. Sinners whom men wanted to have but could not control. Fearing her own Shakti, she suppressed her dark side to become a saint without opinions to fit in.
- The truth can not be suppressed forever, and she rises more fearlessly than ever.
Traits of the dark feminine energy
- Sensuality
- Strength
- Rage
- Creativity
- Shakti
- Destroyer
- Dark
- Mysterious
- Wild
- Unattainable
- Untamable
- Uncontrollable
How to tap into your dark feminine energy
Throat chakra exercise
How many times have we suppressed our voice? There were things we wanted to say but did not- thinking it did not matter or fearing reactions. It is your moment to let it all out.
- Choose a quiet and comfortable place where no one is around. Sit in a cross-legged position.
- Keep your hands on your knees.
- Start moving your core the way that feels good to you.
- Take a deep breath and hold it inside your body for a few seconds.
- Exhale through your mouth using sounds. You might feel uncomfortable while doing it but keep doing it- you will be surprised by how light you feel afterwards.
- It is ok to scream, moan or whistle during exhaling.
- Do not judge yourself.
- If you are not comfortable with other people listening to you, shout inside the pillow.
- The point is to use your full voice and not keep anything inside you.
- After 15 to 20 repetitions, finish off with one final inhale and this time, shake your wrist, arms, core and face as you exhale with sound.
Moving your body
- It is a fun way to connect to your darkness.
- Go to a space where you are alone.
- Sit on the mother earth to ground your energies.
- Feel a red ball of light rotating in the area of your root chakra at the base of your spine.
- Feel the red light from the Earth’s centre lightening up your root chakra.
- Call in your feminine ancestors who have suppressed their darkness and Goddess Kali.
- As you feel their presence, get up, play your favourite song and dance.
- You do not have to worry about your steps or about being in the rhythm.
- Move your body in whatever way it wants to move.
- Feel the presence of all the women dancing with you together to unleash their suppressed darkness through the blessings of Goddess kali.
- There is no specific time for this particular exercise- you can do it any time of the day for at least 15 minutes.
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Kali worshipping and meditation
Meditating on the Goddess Kali gives us access to a power that works on a deeper level. The transformative power of the goddess energies can untangle psychic knots, calling forth specific transformative forces within the mind and heart. It can cleanse our mental and emotional bodies, put us in touch with the protective powers within us, and change how we see the world. More than that, it can shift the way we see ourselves, giving us the ability to see the divine qualities we already hold within us. For women, tuning into the Kali energy is a way of tuning in their own life energy that they have never owned. Celebrating the Goddess not only has the potential to get us in tune with our sacred potential but also helps us work with the darkness in our lives.
- Sit in a comfortable position to meditate. Call Goddess kali as if you are calling your mother.
- As she comes closer, feel yourself gazing into her eyes, which are shining with love.
- You sense within her unconditional love and power.
- Remember that you are a bare soul in front of her.
- She sees your beauty, your wounds, your doubts, your fears, your blocks, and the ways you have hurt others.
- She sees your mistakes, your desires.
- She sees all your darkness.
- She sees you; she adores you; she holds you.
- With each inhalation, you draw in her power, letting it flow through your body, your being.
- And with each exhalation, you let go of whatever within you needs to be released so that she can dissolve it.
- Surrender to her completely, and let her renew you.
Ways to connect with your feminine energy
Honour your wild sensual side
Honouring your sensuality is crucial to unleash your dark feminine energy. I would suggest you explore your body by yourself before including your partner.
Lie on your bed without clothes and touch your body with your hands. Play with different kinds of touch by varying pressure. You can even use objects. Notice what feels good to your body. Do not shy away and suppress your wild fantasies. It is ok to have them. Talk to your partner if there are some things you can practise together. You can practice pole dancing or sensual dancing as well. Remember- honouring your sexuality does not make you a slut.
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Practise shadow work
Shadow work refers to bringing light to the parts of ourselves that we have kept hidden in the darkness, buried or rejected.
Feminine, being the ocean, is not afraid of depths. Dive deep into your shadows and bring love to the darkest parts. Self-love is nothing if done conditionally. Forgive your mistakes and your past. If you want to fall in love, fall in love with all of yourself. Remember- shadow work does not mean that you are on the mission to remove your darkness- it is about being aware of your dark side, loving it and knowing that you are an integration of both sides.