Dealing with heartbreaks is never easy. And when you have imagined your future with the other person, it just gets even more difficult. Most of the time, we try to distract ourselves from the pain by getting involved in various things without properly healing our wounds. As a woman, if you try to get over heartbreaks in a masculine manner, it will not help you at all. And that’s the mistake most of us make.
With hampering your healing, it also hinders your future relationships. Here, I have the best ways to get over a breakup fast for women. Believe me, along with your relationships, these ways will also transform you for the better.
If you try to move on from your ex by doing these things-
- Overworking on your business or job
- Emotional eating
- Non-stop clubbing
- Having an ‘I am a bitch who cares’ kind of attitude
- Wanting revenge
- Working out like crazy thinking there is something wrong with your body
- Dating people to make your ex jealous
- Becoming numb to your pain by consuming drugs, alcohol
- Spending money on unnecessary clothes and other things
If this is you, no wonder you can’t get over a breakup fast because you are trying to change the things outside of you when you need to bring the change from within. And this further breaks you.
Looking good
Obviously, when we look good, we feel good.
There is no problem in changing your wardrobe or your body post-breakup.
The issue is your intention behind the change.
Most of the time, we transform ourselves physically by blaming our looks. We think that the other person left because of the way we look.
The problem is when the transformation comes from insecurity. The problem comes when we think there is something wrong with us.
We don’t realise that the problem here is not our looks, but the issue is with another person.
Whenever you are trying to transform yourself physically, make sure you are doing it to feel better. Bring a change in yourself for none but your own self.
Womb healing
Womb healing is something you must do to move on from heartbreak- it is unbelievably transformational. Words and sentences can only elaborate on an experience; they fail to describe feelings. As the womb’s owner, we store all the energy in our womb. Every heartbreak, abuse, rejection, insecurity, collective feminine pain, ancestral pain, everything is stored in our womb. It is crucial to do womb healing after a breakup or any setback in life.
This is how I do womb healing at home
Taking a break
Rather than working your butt off to distract yourself from the pain, take some time out for yourself. Keeping yourself constantly busy will not help you get over a breakup fast.
Spend some time alone with your thoughts.
Every relationship comes with the wisdom of spiritual lessons.
Notice why your relationship failed.
Do journaling whenever possible.
Ask yourself the following questions-
- Did I ignore any red flags?
- What does this experience want to teach me?
- Why did I attract such a person/relationship?
- Did I betray myself?
You can pen down all the feelings for your ex with a sprinkle of curse words on top and then burn that paper.
Self-love
When we feel that the person we dearly loved no longer loves us, we too stop loving ourselves. We start feeling hopeless and blame ourselves.
We tend to overeat; fill our bodies with processed foods and do not sleep properly because of binge-watching Netflix.
Disrespecting our body by doing one nightstand or consuming alcohol seems a quick fix to get over the pain.
We neglect self-love when we deserve self love the most.
Take time to do the things that make you happy.
Go for massages and do a DIY spa at home every weekend.
How about choosing your food consciously, eating until your stomach is full, feeling grateful for your meals, filling your body with foods that provide nutrition to your body and taking proper sleep?
Do social media detox. Also, refrain from posting everything on social media because nobody actually cares. As rude as it might sound, all people want is good gossip.
Also, before going to bed, I give all the love I had for my ex to myself. I feel all the love flowing into every cell of your body and then affirm-
- My body is a gift from my goddess
- I love you and respect you
- I am sorry for not taking care of you
- All is well
- I am there for you
I touch all my body parts while speaking the affirmations and feel them nourishing my body.
It is my favourite DIY GODDESS spa
Emotions
After heartbreak, we find our emotions all over the place.
But no matter what you are feeling at the moment, make sure you let it out as they come up.
Do not think that not showing your emotions or suppressing them showcases your strength. Doing this will literally mess you up later on.
It is normal to cry and feel sad, anxious, hurt, angry.
I let go of my emotions in these 3 ways-
- Breathwork
- Sounds
- Movement
Suppose you are feeling angry-
- Centre yourself through breathing.
- Connect to your breath and notice your feelings- the heat in your body, tightness in your jaw.
- Use sounds to push your emotions and feelings out.
- You can shout.
- Make sure you turn on the music in your room and shut the doors and windows so that your neighbours don’t end up getting traumatised.
- Then, use physical movements to let that emotion go. My personal favourite is dancing. Just play the music and let your body move the way it wants to.
Forgiveness
Forgiving the person who hurt you is the hardest thing to do when healing a broken heart. But, believe me, it is also the most rewarding.
Sooner or later, you have to forgive this person. Why not do it now?
You might not forgive the person in one go; it might take you a few months or even a year. But once you do it, all the influence they had on you will be gone.
After this, no matter what they do- it will not affect you.
Morning meditation for learning to forgive-
- Connect to your breath.
- Imagine that the person is in front of you.
- Say the following to them- ‘I forgive you, I break the karmic bond between us, thank you for teaching me what I needed to learn in this life, now you have no influence over me, I am letting you go and calling my powers back.’
- Feel the person disappearing from your life.
Initially, you will be reluctant to forgive them, especially if they ruined the relationship. But be consistent with this practice until you feel no bitterness towards that person or your past.
Remember, forgiveness does not mean that what they did was alright, and after this practice, you can accept them back.
It means you are letting go of their power to control your emotions as the baggage of hurt is not for you to carry.
Also, be kind to yourself. Often, we get angry with ourselves because of choosing the wrong person. But when you feel that way, forgive yourself too. It’s completely alright to make mistakes. Tell yourself that now that you know better, you will do better. Plus, don’t forget, you can’t control your past, but with the right actions in the present, you can change your future for the better.
No contact
If you think that seeing old pictures, following your ex-partner, maintaining contact and reading old text messages will not affect you, you are wrong.
For a while, unfollowing that person on social media, deleting old images and texts, putting all the things that remind you of them in a box and then keeping that box out of your sight is the best for your mental health.
If they keep calling you, do yourself a favour by blocking them.
During the no-contact period, talk to the friends who assist you in your healing and uplift you. Sacred sisterhood is such a blessing during such times.
It will really help you get over a breakup fast.
Spiritual tools
Sometimes we give so much in our relationships that when they get over, we feel drained out.
We need to take care of ourselves mentally and physically, but we mustn’t neglect our spiritual health.
Some things that have helped me get over a breakup fast and replenish my mind and soul-
- Meditation
- Chakra cleaning and balancing
- Qi gong
- Praying
- Reading ancient and timeless texts
- Feminine energy rituals
- Using singing bowls
Here are my favourite feminine energy rituals
Do not jump from one relationship to another. This is not the way to move on from a breakup. Take some time off after putting an end to one relationship. It will help you learn your lesson and attract a much better partner than before.
You will notice that as you divert your energy from your ex-partner towards your own growth, they will come back. At that time, it is up to you whether you want to accept them or not. Personally, I have noticed that after doing these things, one becomes more conscious than one was before. So, chances are that you will not feel attracted towards them as you would have known by then that you deserve better. You might think that you will never get through this pain, but trust me, all the pain will go away after a few months. You will become joyful again and attract the perfect person for you. Never forget, only your ACTIONS in the present can HEAL the past and MAKE a better future.