The art of softness has literally changed my life. It has made me enjoy things I never thought I ever would. Being soft and feminine gives you certain privileges over other women. The best part is that you do not have to look a particular way to have them. Let us check out ways to be soft and feminine-
18 things that destroy your feminine energy
15 ways to be soft and feminine
Know that your body goes in cycles
Masculine energy is linear energy. It has a 24-hour cycle, whereas feminine energy is cyclical energy with a 28-day cycle. Feminine emotions and bodily functions go in waves. You might feel motivated to do everything this week. Whereas, next week, you might not want to do anything.
The first thing you need to know in your journey of becoming soft and feminine is that your energy flows like a wave.
Be kind
Here, being kind does not only mean being kind to others. It refers to being kind to others along with being kind to yourself. You might not be in a place where you want to be in your life. But that does not mean that you should devalue yourself. You can always work on yourself but do not forget to treat yourself with kindness along your journey of self-improvement.
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Be polite
We do not know what demons others might be fighting. Therefore, ensure that no matter who you meet, you treat the person respectfully. Make politeness your tool. Expressing negative emotions is not a problem. Just ensure that the way you opt for it is not rude. You can handle every conflict calmly and gracefully.
Do not neglect the beauty
Usually, when we do not feel beautiful, we do not have a desire to beautify our environment. It is like we close ourselves to this crucial feminine aspect. Understand your uniqueness. Society does not define beauty as an inseparable part of being a woman. But, believe me, it is. Do things that make you feel and look beautiful. Change your clothing style, and try a new haircut or makeup style. Pay attention to your surroundings. Play with creative ideas and beautify your place.
Be in the flow
It is good to have a daily schedule if you are working on your goals but ensure that it does not make you rigid. Develop a habit of being more flexible. Whenever things do not go your way, appreciate such moments.
Know that they are trying to teach to make you more patient and flexible. Believe me, it is during such times that you will become more creative and get in flow with life.
Understand others
One of the most crucial traits to becoming soft and feminine is being empathetic and developing compassion within yourself. It will help you put yourself in the shoes of others and understand their problems in a better way.
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Slow down your body
One of the things you can instantly do to experience feminine softness is slowing down yourself. Do some breathing exercises. Connect with the feeling in your body.
Practice slow and flowy movements with your body. Slowing down will help you connect with your inner feminine, as it will take your energies from your mind to your body.
Playfulness
Do you remember how soft and gentle you were as a little girl? The main reason for this softness was playfulness. It is the feeling of being in the moment and enjoying yourself. Try connecting with this child-like playfulness by connecting with your curious self. Do one thing daily to make your inner girl happy. It could be dancing without worrying about being on beats or reading fairy tales.
Embrace your sensuality
We are so afraid of the slut shaming that we suppress the lover archetype within us.
Sensuality is a crucial trait of femininity.
We suppress a part of ourselves by not expressing it. Do not shy away from expressing your sensual self.
Express it in a way you feel comfortable expressing, not in the way society asks you to.
Appreciate your vulnerability
We should not share everything with others, especially with the people we have just met. Privacy has its own power. It makes us more mysterious in the eyes of others.
Although we should not be vulnerable to everyone, being vulnerable in close relationships makes them more intimate.
Our bond with others gets stronger when we open our deepest selves with the people we love as they get to see our authentic side.
Receive gratefully
As women, we keep giving ourselves emotionally, mentally and physically to others without receiving anything in return. We feel uncomfortable while receiving from others as we think it is our duty to give, and we are not worthy of receiving. Know your worth. You deserve everything. Practise receiving even if it is difficult at first. With time, you will be able to enjoy it. Your man will feel more masculine when he gives, and you receive gratefully.
Learn to cooperate
In today’s world, we have become so competitive that our definition of success has become others’ failure. It is understandable if you are in a corporate world where competition is inevitable. Otherwise, we all can enjoy wealth and success. The best way to become more cooperative if you have a competitive work setting is by having a community where other women also awaken their femininity.
This way, you can cooperate and grow together.
Slow down the train of thoughts
Usually, women overthink more than men as it is difficult to bring ourselves to rest. Be conscious of your thoughts. Whenever you feel yourself getting into the train of thoughts, bring your attention to the movement of your breath.
Doing this will create the space between your thoughts, which will slow down your train of thoughts. You can even try other mindfulness techniques to establish your connection with the present moment.
Do not suppress your emotions
Our emotions are a beautiful gift from the goddess. They give us the information about the situation our minds can’t receive. Suppressing them shuts our system down mentally, physically and emotionally. Practise techniques like journaling, letting go and surrendering. These practices will help you create a channel that will help you let go of negative emotions like sadness, jealousy and anger completely.
Focus on your safety
If you are in an unsafe environment or with the people who make you feel unsafe, this is a sign that you need to make changes in your life. Femininity can not flow fully without safety. It creates an imbalance in our root chakra.
So, ensure that you prioritise your safety and security- even if it means having to let go of a few relationships.