11 Habits that will change your life forever

First, you make your habits and then, your habits make you.
If you focus on looking outside of yourself rather than inside, you won’t achieve your dreams. Only you can change your destiny by being responsible and by instilling habits that will change your life.

11 best habits that will change your life:

Take responsibility

You are the only person responsible for your life.
You are not where you are because of the government, family background or your exes but YOURSELF.
The day you stop blaming others for what happens in your life, everything will change for you.
Start taking responsibility for yourself. Write a new story that is not about being a victim of circumstances.
Life doesn’t always go according to our ways.
It’s in those moments that how we respond matters the most.
YOU have the power to change the things in your life.
Your thoughts, actions, and feelings are in your control.
It’s for you to decide where you will put your energy and what kind of people you will spend your time with.
Rather than seeing your past as a mistake, see it as a lesson.

Attitude towards life

Your Attitude plays a crucial role in your life.
It can change the way you deal with everything.
Look at the positive side of things in life- even in the worst situations.
Everything happens for a reason. What we go through never goes wasted. It always happens for the better. There are things we can learn from every situation.
Small moments come together to make our life.
We all go through moments of happiness and grief in our lives, but how we make the best out of every moment is the art we need to learn.
Did you lose your job?
So what will you do?
Will you be angry forever and blame your boss and co-workers? Or, will you go out and seek new opportunities?
You never know; losing your job might open new doors!

Design your perfect day

Design your perfect day.
What does it look like?
What would you do if you had all the time and money?
Where do you live?
What would you do if you were not bound by responsibilities?
Think of your job and your company.
Who are you spending your day with?
What are you doing?
How does it feel?
Write down exactly how you would like your perfect day to be. Have a journal for it.
You can even make a vision board.
Make sure that you are enjoying the whole process.

When you are writing:

Sit down for an hour in a quiet room.
Make sure that you are not distracted by your cell phone.
Make your visualisation come alive. Describe everything in detail. (Colours, feeling, shapes)
Remember that there are NO LIMITS!
Read your ideal day out with enthusiasm at least once a week.
Feel every emotion you will feel as if you are living it.

Be focussed

Most people do not get what they want because they do not know what they want.
Rather than focusing on what they want/have, their focus is always on what they do not have.
We all are aware that – ‘Where Focus Goes, Energy Flows’.
Focus on what you want.
Are you focusing on the past or present?
Is your focus on the problem or solution?
You will have more of what you focus on.
Focus on the blessings you already have and the opportunities that will come in the future and, you will see more of those. Focus on abundance and let abundance seek you.

Forgive your past

Forgiving those who did you wrong is not easy.
Why should I forgive a person who gave me so much pain?
The answer is that you do it for yourself, not for the other person. It takes a lot of energy to hold resentment and anger towards someone.
By forgiving, you take it back.
You will be the one living in hell while the other person might be enjoying life.
Do yourself a favour.
Forgive and let go.
As Nelson Mandela says, Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Forgive the people that hurt you, forget them and move on.
Trust me; they are not worth your time and energy.
Forgiving does not mean that you keep such people in your life and keep giving them opportunities again and again to destroy your peace.
As Maya Angelou says, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.”
Learn your lesson and part your ways from such people.
Forgive yourself as well for not knowing any better.

Do this forgiveness exercise:

Sit in silence for 15 minutes. Imagine the person who has wronged you and say-

I forgive you.
I break all my ties with you.
Thank you for teaching me what I had to learn.
I forgive myself for trusting you.
I let you go.
Be kind to yourself. You might not be able to forgive immediately. But, eventually, you will free yourself.
Forgiveness might not be easy but, it’s among the best habits that will change your life.

Use your time wisely

Are you one of those people who always say I wish I had more time?
Time management starts when you set your priorities and choose where you will spend your time.
Set clear boundaries regarding when you are available and with whom you will spend your time. Do not let other people cross that boundary.
Other people will value your time when you understand its worth. When you are available all the time, you allow people to disturb your focus from your work.
Imagine how much time you can gain back when you decrease the number of interruptions.
Thanks to social media, it’s so easy to get distracted these days.
Set a fixed time for checking emails and messages.
Keep a check on how much time you are spending on all your daily activities.
Then, decide the time you will spend on each task.
In few days, this will become a habit. Then, you will have sufficient time in your hands.

Make your life uncomplicated

To make your life uncomplicated, focus on the necessary tasks and eliminate the other activities.
Sometimes, it’s easier to hire a person to help you because if you want to do everything, in the end, you will end up doing nothing. Simplifying life is about living a minimalistic life.
Set a fixed time for all your activities and stick to it.
Clean up your closet. Give away all the clothes which you don’t wear.
Declutter your electronic gadgets.
Get rid of everything that you do not use now.
When you are at home, be at home; don’t think about the problems in the office.

Save/invest your money

In the list of habits that will change your life, this is the most crucial one.
Save at least 18 months of salary as it takes away a lot of stress and gives you mental peace.
To get started with saving, set aside some money from your earnings.
Avoid unnecessary expenditures.
The best way is to deduct a fixed amount from your account at the beginning of the month and put it into your savings account. If you can invest your money, it’s even better.

Spend time with nature

This simple habit proves to be amazingly refreshing.
Spend some time with nature; go for a walk and connect with it, watch the sunset or sunrise, listen to the sounds of birds, smell the flowers.
With energizing your body and mind, it boosts your creativity.
It helps you in connecting with your emotions.

Exercise

Answer the following questions-
Do you want to look better?
Want to feel happier?
Do you have a desire to become more healthy and drop that extra weight off?
Want something to take away your stress?
If your answer is yes to the above questions, exercising is the only way to go.
You don’t have to go to a gym for the same.
Try different workouts.
See what activity appeals the most to you.
Then, be consistent with it.
From now on, drop those excuses and exercise
at least 3-5 times every week.

Meditation

The benefits of meditation are numerous.
More and more people are now practising it.
When Buddha was asked:-
What have you gained from meditation?
He replied, “Nothing! However, let me tell you what I lost: anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, fear of old age and death.”
According to research, meditation can reduce blood pressure and aid healing.
It is the best way to calm our minds and help us listen to our intuition.
Prayer is when you talk to God.
Meditation is when you listen to the all mighty.
Just practising stillness/mindfulness meditation for 15 to 20 minutes once a day can transform you.
For me, instilling this habit was the most transformative.

Just don’t read this article and then forget it.
Nothing will change if you don’t take any action.
As Jack Canfield says, nothing will change until you do.
Your success depends upon YOU.
If you practice these 11 habits consistently, I am sure that your life will never be the same.
These are the best habits that will change your life forever.
So what are you waiting for?
Go for it!
Chase your dreams.
You are born to succeed.

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